Episode Description

In this episode, we explore a modern parenting paradox: how to be a supportive parent without overdoing it. Joining us again is researcher and family systems therapist Phil Kelver from Kansas, USA, sharing insights from his 20-year study of 50 families.

Together, we unpack his fascinating research about the effects of over-investing in our children, how parents can spot the subtle signs of doing too much, and what it takes to find a healthier balance in today’s high-pressure parenting culture.

A thoughtful, eye-opening conversation for anyone navigating the fine line between care and control.

We explore:

What the data reveals about over-investment and its impact on both kids and parents

Subtle signs that you might be overdoing it—and how to spot them in your daily life

Practical insights to help you stay engaged without becoming enmeshed

The real-world pressures making it hard for parents to step back, and how to navigate them with confidence

Whether you’re a parent, educator, or just curious about the changing dynamics of modern family life, this episode offers thoughtful reflection and guidance on finding that elusive middle ground.

Tune in for a conversation that’s honest, research-informed, and full of takeaways to help you parent with clarity—not anxiety.

Phillip Klever has conducted a remarkable 20-year study of 50 couples and their multigenerational families and has written 7 peer-reviewed journal articles about the study. 

https://www.linkedin.com/in/phillip-klever-8b360927

Research

https://www.researchgate.net/profile/Phillip-Klever

Key article

https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/10.1111/j.1752-0606.2009.00120.x